Friday, October 14, 2011

Get Serious

There comes a point in every relationship where you need to ask the serious questions. Questions like, do you see a future for us, would you want to move in, get married, have kids. The toughest part is knowing when to ask those questions and how to go about it without freaking him/her out.

If you've only been dating for a month or a few months, it may be too early. But every relationship is different and if you feel yourself constantly wondering about these questions, then it might be a good idea to find out the answers. First thing I would do is casually bring up the topic. For example, if a friend is getting married, you can bring up the topic of marriage and see how he reacts.

If being discrete doesn't work, then just ask the question. Be straight up and ask for an honest answer. The worst is for one person to want something more out of the relationship than the other person is willing to offer. If you're looking for a commitment and he doesn't ever want to get married, then you should find out so you can decide whether or not you want to leave. There's no point in being in a relationship that isn't heading in the direction that you want it to go. And if he says he never wants to get married, chances are, he's not going to change his mind, so don't keep wasting your time.

When a couple has a serious conversation about their future, it takes the relationship to a whole other level. It solidifies your bond and it tells you both that you're both wanting the same things and you both want to head in the same direction.

For me, it makes me feel more secure because I'm not worried about whether or not I'm wasting my time. Even if things don't work out, it would be for a different reason. I would at least be able to walk out of the relationship knowing that I wasn't afraid to ask important questions. So grab your significant other, sit down and have a chat.

Have a great Friday guys!

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