Second Hand

Dating a friend's ex.

This is a really sticky situation.  For me, I would just never date a friend's ex, there are plenty of guys out there.. do you really have the share the same dating pool as your friend?  Granted, I know there are a lot of variables that factor into this decision so here are some questions you need to ask yourself.

1. How would your friend feel?  Is she ok with you dating her ex, did they end on good terms, will you two still be friends if you started dating her ex?  Are you willing to jeopardize your friendship for this new relationship?
2. How did he treat her?  If he didn't treat her right, then chances are he's not going to treat you well either.
3. Why did they break up?  Did they break up because they just weren't a match or did they break up because he couldn't commit, partied too much, etc.? 
4. How strong are your feelings?  If you just want to mess around then it's not worth ruining your friendship, if you have a really amazing connection, then it might be worth exploring.

What do you guys think? Would you ever date a friend's ex, have you ever dated a friend's ex?  Leave a comment!

Have a great long weekend!
xoxo

Shoe Upgrade

I got these shoes a while ago (a year to be exact) but I haven't worn them because I felt they were a little plain.  Then I got the idea to decorate them on the cheap, so here's what you'll need:

• shoes $5 
• a hot glue gun (I borrowed mine from my dad - see how heavy duty it is?)
• glass beads $1.25 
• stretchy jewellery cord or string

First, I took the beads and measured how many I would need per strap.

Then using the string, I strung them by fours and tied knots at the ends.  I like to string them together so if one decides to fall off, then at least it's attached to the other ones, I just like to extra security.

Hot glue each bead onto the shoe, crazy glue would also work.

Press down and you're all set! Now go model your shoes for all to see!

Strawberry Fields

Note to self.. don't go strawberry picking with open toe shoes.. the grass hurts. 

Please ignore my ugly feet and if you like the shoes.. stayed tuned and I'll have the super easy diy for these shoes later on in the week!

xoxo

Puppetmaster

Don't manipulate.

I think lots of people would deny being manipulative because it's not a nice attribute but the truth is that a lot of us do it.  Obviously, we want things our way, so what we often do is manipulate the people around us to get what we want.  Most of the time, we don't even realize we're doing it. 

For example, have you ever played dumb so that your significant other will do something for you?  "Oh, I don't know how to mow the lawn, cook dinner, drive, etc, etc."  While these examples seem harmless, in the long run, it can take a toll on your relationship.  Instead of playing down your own ability to do certain things, it's just better to ask.  Honesty is always the best policy.

Lastly, the greatest manipulation of them all... fake tears.  Oh boy, it's so easy to get your way when you burst out the tears because he just can't stand seeing you crying and he can't say no to the tears.  Again, when you fake cry, it's dishonest and it's not fair, you don't even give him a fighting chance.  Instead, use your words, use your logic.  If reason can't win your arguement, then it's not one to be won.  Don't fake it.